I believe that a good communication involves all people in the group, in order for it to work effectively, and democratically. I have heard it said that leadership is responsible for the overall effectiveness of a group, but I think it involves much more. I think that all involved must be willing to be responsible for making the group work well together. I believe it is important in one on one communication as well as group. It is important for formal as well as informal settings.
I think personality has the biggest impact on how one communicates, and also how different personalities can be conducive, or opposed, when communicating. I do know however with some effort, that many problems that get in the way of effective communication, can be overcome, if all communicators are willing to work together to find a solution that works for all involved. Being clear in speaking is very important. I can only say how important it is to try make one’s words clear and with meaning that do not have to be assumed as one way, because a speaker or communicator was not clear enough. I see this in politics a lot as well as other places, such as marriage, or one on one relationships. Ways of communicating can be so diverse and complex, as in nature of the discussion or communication. It could be a group working on a project for school, or work. It could be a community based project, or community based organization, which in itself is highly complex, and has many ways of communicating. If one attends or watches on television, any government group, whether it be local, or on a state or federal level, it is a great way to not only get involved in community, and state and country, by watching and listening, and learning. How people work together, whether it is effective or not, as well. This is clearer when there are roles that are clearly defined and named.
In a more virtual group if roles are not clearly defined, this may present problems that need to be addressed. The nature of the environment has much to do with outcome of communication, such as being in a socially informal group or a more formal one. I think that formal and informal can be misinterpreted sometimes. I think rules are important in helping people to follow a protocol, which helps things go more smoothly. Informal can work also, but with the informal setting people may be more relaxed and therefor maybe less respectful. I am not saying it has to be that way, but it can happen. I think setting up an environment with some ground rules helps with misunderstanding and becomes a place of structure, and structure is important. Like a building one must have a structure that has a firm solid base, as well as construction at all levels being sound. This works for all forms of communication. Just to mention that social everyday interaction, that is not based on a specific protocol, but a more relaxed environment still has many maybe even unseen rules that apply. There is acceptable and unacceptable, as well as many gray areas. One should bring respect into the picture because if one does, they can most likely be sure that communication is working well for all involved.
There are many ways to describe Leadership and ways to communicate and I cannot begin to cover it all. To me, the bottom line is respecting oneself, being able to keep personal boundaries, as well as being able to come out of one’s own comfort zone at times, to create a balance. This can be difficult, but it can be worth the effort. Taking care of one’s own needs is as important as any other.
Written in July 29, 2014, but never published publicly.